About Dabney
Dabney Hayes is a licensed professional counselor with over 14 years of clinical experience. She works with people who feel stuck by shame, addiction, low self-esteem, or the fallout of trauma and grief. She aims to help clients build more confident, authentic lives through steady, practical steps.
Her approach is warm and nonjudgmental. Sessions focus on what feels most urgent to each person, whether that is anxiety, parenting strain, work stress, or relationship challenges.
Background and approach
She listens first, then helps people test new ways of coping and thinking. Dabney blends several therapy styles to meet real-world needs. She uses tools from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to shift unhelpful thought patterns.
When attachment wounds or family dynamics matter, she adds attachment-focused work to help people understand relational patterns. She has experience with individual and group formats and has supported people through a wide range of concerns, including compassion fatigue, eating and sleeping problems, ADHD, bipolar symptoms, and caregiving stress.
Dabney also addresses less commonly discussed topics such as kink and alternative sexual culture with openness and respect. Clients can expect practical skills, clear goals, and a steady focus on values-driven change. Dabney encourages small experiments between sessions so people can see what works in their daily lives.
Her style is collaborative and straightforward, aimed at helping people regain agency and move forward.
Therapeutic approaches and online options
Dabney uses Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as core tools. ACT helps people clarify what matters to them and take small, meaningful actions toward those values despite hard thoughts or feelings. CBT focuses on identifying and changing unhelpful thinking and behavior patterns to reduce anxiety, depression, and stress.She also draws on Attachment-Based Therapy when relationships or family history are central to a person's concerns. That work looks at how early bonds shape current patterns and helps people try new ways of relating that feel safer and more effective.
Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. Dabney will talk with each person about their goals, preferences, and what has or hasn't worked before. Together they decide which techniques to try and adjust them over time based on progress and feedback.
Online sessions are available by video, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging to make scheduling easier. Video calls let therapists and clients work visually, while phone sessions can be simpler when bandwidth is limited. Live chat or text messaging can serve as brief check-ins or flexible support between longer sessions. These options help people fit therapy into busy lives, manage caregiving or work demands, and maintain steady contact while working toward change.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hoarding
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Somatization
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Experience
- 14 years
- Licensed
- North Carolina, Florida, Washington, Colorado, California, South Carolina
- Languages
- English
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