About Lani
Lani Stoner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with 27 years of experience in mental health. She helps people who are dealing with anxiety, depression, grief, stress, addiction, trauma, and relationship concerns. She aims to make therapy practical and focused so people can see real changes in daily life.
Her style is active and directive when that helps move a problem forward. She blends short-term, goal-focused methods with mindful and narrative tools.
Background and approach
That means sessions often include talking through specific challenges, practicing new ways of thinking, and trying small changes between meetings. Stoner has worked across public mental health and independent practice settings. Her background includes decades of work with adults, people with chronic mental health issues, and support for those facing caregiving or medical challenges.
She has also offered services to people with military or first responder experiences and to those who identify as LGBTQQIP2SAA. She pays attention to life stage and practical stressors like parenting, career strain, chronic illness, and aging concerns. Common issues she addresses include sleep problems, anger, self-esteem, and coping with major life changes such as divorce or loss.
Sessions may incorporate problem-solving for day-to-day routines and managing symptoms. Lani takes a collaborative approach to set clear goals and measure progress. She uses phone, video, chat, or text-based messaging as part of her practice.
People who want to begin complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule a first meeting to talk about their needs and goals.
Approaches that translate well to online therapy
Client-centered therapy focuses on the person in front of the therapist, offering a respectful, listening-based approach that helps people feel understood and make their own choices. It suits issues like relationship concerns, low self-esteem, and coping with life transitions.Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, looks at how thoughts and behaviors keep problems going and uses practical exercises to change them. It is often used for anxiety, depression, sleep problems, and anger by teaching tools people can use between sessions.
Mindfulness therapy brings attention to the present moment and teaches ways to notice stress without getting swept up by it. It can help with stress, compassion fatigue, and ongoing physical or emotional pain.
Finding the right method is part of the work. The therapist will discuss goals, try approaches, and adjust based on what helps most. This is a collaborative process where the client’s preferences guide choices about techniques and pace.
Online formats in her practice include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video sessions allow face-to-face conversation and visual cues. Phone sessions use less bandwidth and can fit a break at work. Chat or messaging can be a shorter check-in or ongoing written support between meetings. These options make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life while using evidence-informed methods.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Relationship issues
- Grief
Also listed
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Cancer
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Disruptive Mood Dysregulation Disorder (DMDD)
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fertility issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Trauma and abuse
- Traumatic brain injury
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 27 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
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