About Vijay
Vijay (Jay) Sandher is a counsellor who helps people facing stress, anxiety, addiction difficulties, trauma and abuse, grief and depression. He speaks English and Punjabi and works with individuals across the United Kingdom and internationally. Jay believes taking the first step towards change takes courage and offers steady support through that process.
Jay sees each person as the expert on their own life and draws on their strengths. He keeps sessions focused and practical, helping people notice patterns and try small changes that can make daily life more manageable.
Background and approach
He aims for clear, respectful conversations rather than jargon. His approach includes Attachment-Based Therapy, which looks at how early relationships influence how people connect now. He also uses Client-Centred Therapy to create a warm, non-judgemental space.
For those recovering from shocks or repeated harm, he uses Trauma-Focused Therapy to address painful memories at a pace the person can manage. With seven years of professional experience, Jay blends gentle challenge with active listening. Sessions can be a mix of short-term problem solving and longer-term exploration, depending on what someone needs.
He supports people working through abandonment and attachment issues, codependency, chronic illness and pain, and the emotional effects of separation or domestic violence. People meet him for a calm, practical style that aims to make therapy feel straightforward. He encourages honest conversation about goals, and helps people plan the next steps when they feel ready.
How his approaches work online
Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationships shape today's connections and emotions. Online sessions use conversation to identify unhelpful patterns and try new ways of relating that feel safer and more predictable.Client-Centred Therapy focuses on listening without judgement and helping people find their own answers. In remote sessions this means a calm, steady space where the counsellor reflects what someone says and encourages their choices.
Trauma-Focused Therapy addresses past hurts in a paced way so memories can be processed without overwhelming the person. Over video or phone, the counsellor guides breathing and grounding exercises and helps people approach difficult memories at a safe tempo.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. He will collaborate with each person to choose methods that match their needs, goals and preferences, and adjust as progress unfolds. This is a partnership rather than a one-size-fits-all plan.
Online sessions offer practical flexibility. Video calls let people see facial cues and keep a close therapeutic connection. Phone sessions use less bandwidth and can be easier to fit into a short break. Live chat or text-based messaging suits quick check-ins or people who prefer writing. These options make it easier to keep therapy consistent around work, caregiving and other commitments.
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What this therapist works with
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Control issues
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Fertility issues
- Grief
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Paranoia
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self-harm
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Traumatic brain injury
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Workplace issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 7 years
- Licensed
- Languages
- English, Punjabi
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