About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a licensed clinical social worker who helps people manage stress, anxiety, phobias, trauma, and depression. She works with adults facing relationship strain, grief, parenting challenges, anger, career shifts, and compassion fatigue. She practices in New York and offers services in English and Spanish.
With 25 years of experience, she takes a practical, collaborative stance. She treats each person as an individual and looks for strengths to build on.
Background and approach
Sessions focus on real-life skills people can use between meetings. Her style centers on forming a trusting relationship first. That connection guides the choice of methods and the pace of work.
She explains options and adjusts approaches to match what a person needs and prefers. Toby draws from approaches such as attachment-based work, cognitive behavioral techniques, emotionally-focused strategies, dialectical behavior methods, and client-centered care. She blends these to address symptoms and underlying patterns, always returning to what helps someone function better day to day.
She uses regularly scheduled weekly or biweekly sessions to help steady progress. Clients can expect clear communication about scheduling and a collaborative plan for change. The first steps are simple: select Start Therapy, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to availability.
Approaches that translate to online care
Attachment-based work looks at how early connections shape current relationships and emotions; online sessions can help people notice patterns and practice different ways of relating. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying unhelpful thoughts and changing behaviors with concrete exercises and homework that fit well into remote sessions. Emotionally-focused techniques help people name and process strong feelings and develop new emotional responses, which can be done through guided conversations over video or phone.Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist collaborates with each person to choose which approaches to try first, and adjusts them based on goals and how someone responds. That flexibility helps keep sessions focused and relevant to daily life.
Online formats offer practical benefits. Video calls allow face-to-face interaction for deeper conversations and nonverbal cues. Phone sessions can be easier when bandwidth is limited or when someone prefers not to be on camera. Live chat and text-based messaging work well for brief check-ins, homework review, or quick coping tools between longer sessions. These options make it simpler to fit therapy into a busy schedule and to keep steady momentum toward change.
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What this therapist works with
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Anger management
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Co-morbidity
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Coping with natural or human-caused disaster
- Depression
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Relationship issues
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Experience
- 25 years
- Licensed
- New York
- Languages
- English, Spanish
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