About Richard
Richard Alongi is a licensed marriage and family therapist who helps people facing anxiety, addiction, relationship strains, grief, and life transitions. He works with adults dealing with intimacy concerns, low self-esteem, motivation struggles, and stress. He aims to meet people where they are and build practical, doable steps forward.
He uses a mix of approaches to match each person's needs rather than one fixed method. Sessions focus on what is happening now in relationships and feelings, and on improving everyday coping.
Background and approach
Conversations are straightforward and respectful, with attention to emotion and patterns that repeat in relationships. With 36 years as an LMFT in California, he draws on experience with trauma, anger, depression, and addiction-related issues. He also supports people navigating career uncertainty, caregiving stress, and identity or intimacy questions.
His background includes work with attachment and relationship-focused therapies. Richard adapts the pace to the client, combining emotion-focused work with client-centered listening and exploration of deeper themes when helpful. He pays attention to how past experiences shape current reactions and relationship patterns.
This can help people who feel stuck or empty find clearer choices. Sessions may include practical tools for stress and craving management, communication skills for strained relationships, and guidance for coping with life changes. He encourages collaborative planning so progress feels relevant and realistic to each person.
How attachment and emotion work online can help
Attachment-Based Therapy focuses on how close relationships shape feelings and reactions. It looks at patterns that cause worry or distance and helps people try different ways of connecting when old patterns repeat. Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) centers on identifying and working with strong feelings in relationships. It helps people name emotions, soften defenses, and learn new ways to respond that reduce conflict and increase closeness. Client-Centered Therapy emphasizes an accepting, attentive stance from the therapist and lets each person set the pace and goals for change.Choosing the right approach is part of the process. The therapist will ask about your goals, your history, and what feels most useful to you. Together you will decide which methods to try and adjust the plan as progress unfolds so sessions stay relevant to your needs.
Online formats make it easier to fit therapy into life. Video calls allow face-to-face interaction and body language work. Phone sessions can be used when bandwidth is limited or when camera-free conversation is preferred. Live chat and text-based messaging support quick check-ins, brief coaching, and ongoing reflection between longer sessions. These options allow flexibility while maintaining a consistent, therapist-guided path forward.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Addictions
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
Also listed
- Abandonment
- ADHD
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Avoidant personality
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Co-morbidity
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hoarding
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self esteem
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Stress, Anxiety
- Women's issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 36 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
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