About Lani
Lani Ete is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor (LCMHC) who helps people manage stress, anxiety, trauma, depression, addictions, relationship struggles, grief, sleep problems, parenting strain, ADHD, and related concerns such as abandonment and attachment issues. She practices online from Utah and draws on 17 years of clinical experience to support people through practical steps and steady conversation.
Her style is warm and approachable. Sessions focus on clear goals and real-world steps clients can try between meetings.
Background and approach
She asks people to engage actively with homework and reflection so therapy can make a difference outside the session time. Background and approach: Lani completed a master’s degree in mental health counseling in 2007 and has provided clinical care since then. She began her education in Hawaii and finished undergraduate studies via distance learning before graduate school.
That training informs a flexible approach that adapts to each person’s situation. She blends cognitive behavior techniques with client-centered and acceptance-oriented strategies. She also uses attachment-focused ideas to look at how past relationships affect current patterns.
This mix lets her address symptoms and the relationship patterns underneath them. Lani emphasizes collaboration. She helps people set practical goals, practices skills together in session, and assigns short tasks to build new habits.
Her aim is to help clients understand themselves better and take clearer direction in their lives.
Approaches that translate well to online therapy
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice unhelpful thoughts and choose actions that match their values. It is useful for anxiety, avoidance, and coping with life changes. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying patterns of thinking and behavior that keep problems going and practicing new skills to change them. CBT helps with depression, anxiety, sleeping problems, and addiction. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how past relationship patterns shape current reactions and communication styles, which can help with intimacy issues and attachment concerns.Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will talk with the client about their goals and preferences, then try methods that fit those needs. They check in and adjust the plan as therapy progresses so sessions stay relevant and useful.
Online formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging, which give practical flexibility. Video sessions allow face-to-face work and skills practice. Phone calls can be easier when bandwidth is limited or for shorter check-ins. Live chat and messaging support quick reflections, brief problem-solving, and ongoing reminders between appointments. These options help people fit therapy into busy schedules and keep consistent contact with licensed professionals.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Anger management
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Antisocial personality
- Attachment issues
- Avoidant personality
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Co-morbidity
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Dependent personality
- Depression
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Post-traumatic stress
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 17 years
- Licensed
- Utah
- Languages
- English
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