About Abolanle
Abolanle (Bola) Aloluwaloba offers calm, practical support for people facing anxiety, stress, parenting pressures and life changes. She aims to help clients notice patterns that make daily life harder and build small, usable steps toward feeling better. Bola works in English and Yoruba and practices from the United Kingdom with five years' experience as an NCPS counsellor.
Her approach starts with simple listening. She creates a non-judgemental space where people can talk about fears, grief, relationship problems, or difficulties with sleep, eating and mood.
Background and approach
Sessions focus on understanding what is happening now and what gets in the way of change. Bola uses a mix of methods to match the needs of each person. She draws on acceptance and commitment ideas, cognitive and dialectical tools, client-centred ways of relating, and attachment-informed thinking.
This means sessions might include noticing unhelpful thoughts, building practical coping skills, or working on close relationship patterns. She expects the client to play an active role. That can mean trying small experiments between sessions, practising new responses, or exploring painful memories at a pace that feels doable.
The aim is clearer thinking and steadier emotional responses over time. Bola also supports people dealing with addiction, trauma and abuse, intimacy concerns, ADHD-related worries, career strain and compassion fatigue. She encourages honest conversations about difficult topics like abandonment, infidelity or family of origin issues, and helps people find ways forward.
If someone wants a collaborative, straightforward style, Bola offers practical guidance alongside empathetic listening to help people regain control and move toward valued goals.
How practical therapeutic approaches work online
Abolanle uses a few core methods that translate well to online work. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice thoughts and feelings without being controlled by them, then choose actions that match their values; it can help with anxiety, stress and life changes. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) focuses on spotting unhelpful thinking patterns and trying different behaviours to reduce distress, which is useful for anxiety, sleep and mood problems. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationship patterns affect current connections and intimacy, helping people understand and change recurring relationship struggles.Finding the right mix of approaches is a joint process. The therapist will ask about goals, preferences and what has or has not helped before. Together they will agree a plan and try methods that fit the client's pace and needs, reviewing progress as they go.
Online sessions offer flexibility for busy lives. Video calls allow face-to-face conversation and screen-sharing for worksheets. Phone sessions can be a quicker check-in or suit lower bandwidth. Live chat and text messaging make brief, on-the-go contact possible and suit those who prefer writing. These options let people fit therapy around work, caring duties and travel while working with registered or accredited professionals.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Parenting issues
- Anger management
- Self esteem
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Attachment issues
- Avoidant personality
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Coaching
- Commitment issues
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Control issues
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Eating disorders
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Postpartum depression
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Relationship issues
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self-harm
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sleeping disorders
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Stress, Anxiety
- Trauma and abuse
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- Hypnotherapy
- Jungian Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Experience
- 5 years
- Licensed
- Languages
- English, Yoruba
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