About John
John Alilovich is a California-based Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) with four decades of clinical experience. He has spent much of his career working in county mental health and in independent practice, helping people with relationship strains, addiction, trauma, and LGBTQ concerns. He meets people where they are and treats them with warmth and respect.
John keeps sessions straightforward and practical. He listens first, then helps clients pick clear goals.
Background and approach
He uses a blend of approaches so the work fits each person's situation rather than forcing a single method. In earlier roles he worked with substance addiction, domestic violence, parenting challenges, and varied forms of abuse. That background informs his calm, steady approach with people facing grief, stress, anxiety, or life changes.
He also brings experience supporting those dealing with eating and sleeping problems, anger, and career or purpose questions. John often focuses on attachment and intimacy issues, abandonment and foster or adoption-related concerns, and family of origin patterns. He also supports people managing ADHD, bipolar concerns, and compassion fatigue.
His work includes helping clients navigate infidelity, codependency, and blended family challenges. Sessions are collaborative. He draws from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Attachment-Based work, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, and client-centered practices as useful.
The goal is to find what helps each person move toward a more fulfilling life. Choosing to begin therapy is hard. John aims to make the process clear and respectful, helping people take practical steps toward better relationships and daily functioning.
How therapeutic approaches translate to online care
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) encourages people to notice unhelpful thoughts and commit to actions that reflect their values. It often helps with anxiety, stress, and making life changes by focusing on what matters most. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying and changing patterns of thinking and behavior that contribute to depression, anxiety, or unhelpful habits. It provides concrete tools for coping and problem solving.Finding the right approach is part of the work. John will collaborate with each person to decide which methods to try first and adjust as progress is made. That might mean mixing ACT strategies with CBT exercises or bringing in attachment-focused work when relationship patterns are central.
Online therapy offers practical flexibility. Video calls let people use visual cues and longer discussion times. Phone sessions can work when bandwidth is limited or when a person prefers not to be on camera. Live chat and text-based messaging are useful for brief check-ins, skill practice between sessions, or when a shorter format fits a busy day. These options make it easier to fit therapy into work, caregiving, or travel schedules while keeping the focus on steady, goal-oriented progress.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Relationship issues
- Trauma and abuse
- Intimacy-related issues
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Addictions
- ADHD
- Adoption and foster care
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Bipolar disorder
- Blended family issues
- Career difficulties
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Eating disorders
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Infidelity
- Intellectual disability
- Jealousy
- LGBT
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Parenting issues
- Personality disorders
- Phobias
- Postpartum depression
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Stress, Anxiety
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Internal Family Systems
- Experience
- 40 years
- Licensed
- California
- Languages
- English
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