About Xolani
Xolani Anahisi is a counsellor with 13 years of experience based in the United Kingdom. She holds BACP accreditation, which is recorded here as BACP. Xolani aims to give straightforward, compassionate support for everyday struggles and more complex emotional issues.
She creates a calm, non-judgemental space where people can say what they need to say. Sessions focus on listening first, then naming patterns that turn up in feelings and behaviour.
Background and approach
Xolani uses everyday language and practical steps alongside reflection. Her work covers a wide range of concerns such as stress and anxiety, trauma and abuse, low self-esteem, grief and relationship pain. She also supports people facing career shifts, caregiver stress, eating and sleeping difficulties, and compassion fatigue.
LGBT concerns and intimacy-related issues are included in her practice. Xolani draws on psychodynamic ideas to help people see how past experiences affect current choices and emotions. She balances this with techniques that address immediate coping needs.
The aim is to increase understanding and also improve day-to-day functioning. People meet Xolani for different reasons: to process loss, to manage anxiety, to rebuild confidence, or to change relationship patterns. She works openly and collaboratively, helping each person set goals that matter to them.
Practical matters are handled plainly. Sessions are available by video, phone, live chat, or text-based messaging. International clients who speak English can use these formats too.
Therapeutic approaches and online sessions that fit your life
Psychodynamic work looks at how earlier relationships and experiences influence current feelings and behaviour. It helps people notice repeating patterns and make different choices when those patterns no longer serve them. This approach suits people who want to understand the roots of problems such as relationship strain, abandonment issues, or family of origin concerns.Alongside reflection, evidence-based techniques for coping are used to manage anxiety, stress, sleep or eating difficulties. These practical methods focus on short-term tools you can use between sessions to reduce distress and improve daily functioning.
Choosing the right approach is a joint process. The counsellor will listen to your goals and preferences, then try methods that match what you need. If something isn't working, she will adapt the plan so sessions stay useful and relevant to your life.
Online therapy offers flexible ways to meet. Video calls are close to face-to-face and useful for deeper conversations. Phone sessions work well when bandwidth is limited or you prefer not to be on camera. Live chat and text messaging suit quick check-ins, brief coaching, or when shorter, written exchanges fit into a busy day. These options make it easier to keep work and home commitments while continuing therapy.
Questions people ask
What kinds of concerns does this counsellor help with?
How would you describe the therapeutic style and approach?
What is the counsellor's background and experience?
Where is this counsellor based and what credentials are held?
Which languages are supported and can international clients be seen?
What session formats are offered for online work?
How are fees and payments handled?
How do I begin if I want to work together?
What this therapist works with
Most often
Also listed
- Abandonment
- Adoption and foster care
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Anger management
- Attachment issues
- Blended family issues
- Body image
- Career difficulties
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Co-morbidity
- Coaching
- Codependency
- Commitment issues
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Eating and food-related issues
- Eating disorders
- Emptiness
- Family conflicts
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Grief
- Guilt and shame
- Hospice and end-of-life counseling
- Immigration issues
- Infidelity
- Intimacy-related issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Parenting issues
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Postpartum depression
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Relationship issues
- Self esteem
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Sleeping disorders
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
- Experience
- 13 years
- Licensed
- Languages
- English
We will earn a commission if you sign up through our link, at no cost to you.