About Nicole
Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing from Minnesota. She brings 13 years of experience and an emphasis on providing affirmative, sex-positive care for people who live outside mainstream expectations. Nicole uses a respectful, nonjudgmental style and centers the person sitting in front of her during sessions.
Her style is exploratory and collaborative. Nicole listens first, reflects what she hears, and helps clients spot patterns they might miss on their own.
Background and approach
She also uses practical tools when they fit, drawing on approaches like solution-focused strategies and cognitive-behavioral ideas to tackle specific problems. Nicole has worked in community behavioral health settings and in group work with survivors of gender- and sex-based harm. That background shaped her focus on advocacy and on supporting people facing oppression, discrimination, or limited access to services.
She combines that experience with a calm, direct approach in sessions. Areas she addresses include anxiety, stress, panic, mood disorders, grief, trauma and abuse, relationship and intimacy concerns, self-esteem, and phobias. Additional focuses include ADHD, chronic pain and illness, gender dysphoria, non-monogamous relationships, and sexual diversity such as kink and BDSM topics.
Sessions are conversational and pragmatic. Nicole aims to help clients set clear goals, try manageable steps between meetings, and adjust plans based on what actually works. She invites curiosity, gentle humor, and honest talk about identity and values.
How therapeutic approaches translate to online sessions
Client-Centered Therapy focuses on listening, acceptance, and helping the client lead the conversation. It is useful when someone needs space to sort out identity, values, or relationship questions. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) looks at the links between thoughts, feelings, and actions and uses practical exercises to reduce anxiety, treat mood problems, and manage panic or phobias. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) teaches concrete skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and clearer communication, which can help with mood instability and overwhelming stress.Finding the right approach is part of the work. Nicole treats the decision as collaborative and will help clients try different techniques based on needs, goals, and preferences. Together they track what helps and adjust plans so sessions stay focused and useful.
Online therapy formats include video calls, phone sessions, live chat, and text-based messaging. Video lets people use visual cues for more conversational work. Phone calls can fit a quick check-in or be easier when bandwidth is limited. Live chat or text-based messaging work well for brief updates, coaching between meetings, or when typing feels more comfortable. These options offer flexibility to fit therapy into busy schedules and different life demands.
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What this therapist works with
Most often
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
Also listed
- ADHD
- Anger management
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Bipolar disorder
- Career difficulties
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Communication problems
- Compassion fatigue
- Coping with life changes
- Depression
- Family conflicts
- Gender dysphoria
- Grief
- Intimacy-related issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Phobias
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self esteem
- Sexuality
- Trauma and abuse
- Women's issues
Therapeutic approaches
- Experience
- 13 years
- Licensed
- Minnesota
- Languages
- English
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